ADR-0017 implementation: per-cell type-change with override flags

Replaces the placeholder "trust STRICT" body of do_change_column_type
with the per-cell transformer matrix from ADR-0017. Adds:

- src/type_change.rs: CellOutcome { Clean / Lossy / Incompatible }
  + transform_cell + static_refusal covering every matrix pair
  from §3 (54 unit tests).
- --force-conversion and --dont-convert flags on `change column`
  (mutually exclusive at parse time per §5).
- Refined PK rule (§4.1): refused only when the column has an
  inbound FK and fk_target_type would change. Outbound-FK columns
  still refused outright (§4.2). PK / shortid uniqueness checked
  post-transformation (§4.3).
- Bordered diagnostic tables (lossy / incompatible / collision)
  via the pretty-table renderer (§7) — uses ADR-0016's primitives.
- [client-side] success note (§6) when any cell was rewritten.
- Friendly wrapper for engine-level errors under --dont-convert
  so no engine vocabulary leaks (ADR-0002 user-facing posture).

ADR-0017 §3 + §7 amended in place (with user sign-off): serial->int
added explicitly to the always-clean matrix, and diagnostic rows
identify themselves by PK value(s) rather than positional indices
(SQLite returns rows unordered without ORDER BY, so positional
"row 5" is unaddressable).

Tests: 449 -> 517 (+68). Clippy clean with nursery lints.

src/dsl/mod.rs

@@ -17,7 +17,9 @@ pub mod types;
 pub mod value;
 
 pub use action::ReferentialAction;
-pub use command::{ColumnSpec, Command, RelationshipSelector, RowFilter};
+pub use command::{
+    ChangeColumnMode, ColumnSpec, Command, RelationshipSelector, RowFilter,
+};
 pub use parser::{ParseError, parse_command};
 pub use types::Type;
 pub use value::Value;